A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a message where I gave you a question to ask yourself whenever you didn’t want to do something but you knew you should. The question was, “Is it more important to me to choose this or to choose that?” By posing the question to yourself that way, you force the dilemma from your emotional brain to your logical brain and you are likely to choose the option that is best for you overall, not just what you want in the moment. It’s a protective technique to keep yourself focused on your goals and aspirations instead of being lured to a momentary diversion that sets you back.

There is another way to know how well you did with your choices, but unfortunately, it’s after the fact. A time will come when you will reap the benefits or consequences of your choices and will make themselves known by your response. One evokes regret; the other, relief.

Any time you say, “I wish I had…” you know you chose a diversion option that kept you from achieving what was ultimately wanted.

I wish I …
…passed my exam when I was younger.
…asked more questions at the beginning.
…made that call earlier instead of delaying.
…held my tongue and was more careful with what I said.

On the other hand, when you find yourself saying, “I’m glad I…” you know you chose options that got you to where you wanted to be.

I’m glad I…
…explained what I really wanted.
…took advantage of the opportunities given to me.
…reviewed my work before giving it to my client.
…stayed with it to the end.

This week, when you encounter certain situations, ask yourself if you will one day say “I wish I had” or I’m glad I did?” By projecting your choices into the future, you force clear thinking.